Next to responsibility, the key word often mentioned for achieving success is confidence. In order to succeed, you need confidence. Despite the popularity of the word “confidence”, it is surprisingly rare to find people who can define or explain what it means to have confidence. So, what does it mean to be confident?
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, confidence is defined in the following ways. 1a : a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances <had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed> <met the risk with brash confidence> b : faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way <have confidence in a leader> 2: the quality or state of being certain : certitude<they had every confidence of success> 3a : a relation of trust or intimacy <took his friend into his confidence> b : reliance on another’s discretion <their story was told in strictest confidence> c: support especially in a legislative body <vote of confidence> 4: a communication made in confidence : secret <accused him of betraying a confidence.
Based on the dictionary definition, confidence appears to be a psychological and/or spiritual strength. It certainly represents an inner strength. It is a deep inner recognition that you are capable. It means that you know that you are good enough to deal with a situation. If you cannot handle a situation on your own, you are capable of finding the necessary information and help that you need to handle it. In addition, being confident means that you understand that you are a lovable and decent person, others want to be socially connected with and help you out, if necessary. Overall, to be confident means that you feel certain that you can handle any situation, no matter how challenging it is. What does it take to be confident? It appears that confidence comes from trusting life; a type of trust, that no matter what happens things are going to work out and that you are going to be alright.
Do you have this kind of trust? If not, perhaps, it is time to practice by starting something new and taking a leap of faith.
M. J. Mandoki